The Words of a Father

I was thinking, If God came to me and said “you can go back to the beginning and change one thing you did as a Father”, what would it be?  As I pondered this thought, I became aware of the simple fact that I made so many mistakes it is embarrassing.  All the promises made but not fulfilled, all the financial decisions, all the school work mistakes, all the lack of support, what would I choose?

Words,….. the single most powerful thing in the world.  I would change my words.

Words are so powerful yet so illusory.  We throw them out with such wild abandon.  We aim them at whom we please and all too often we take no thought for their impact or the destruction left behind.

A torn jacket is soon mended; but hard words bruise the heart of a child.                

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807 – 1882)

As Fathers we need to tame our tongues.  Are we not quick to criticize our children when they are not living up to our expectations?  Do we not brand them, with our tongues in our anger?  Do we not question their stature and verbally push them down to make us feel strong?

I know most Fathers don’t say things with purposeful intent.  It is as we have learned.  We must make a conscious effort to guard our words. Proverbs 21:23 says, “He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from trouble”.  The trouble doesn’t end with a Father.  It carries on as a generational curse from child to child, and insidious intruder in the lives of those who had nothing to do with the original encounter generations earlier.

Fathers, it is our responsibility to guard our tongues.  Once a word is out of your mouth, it can’t be taken back.  The damage is done and only the love of Christ can heal the scars it leaves behind.

Who among us could stand if our Heavenly Father spoke our own words back into our lives?  I fear it would be more than we could stand.  Are we not made in His image?  If we are, we need to use the same restraint we have come to expect from our own Father in Heaven.

En servicio como padre



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