When Children Disappoint

One of the toughest things to find balance in is how to handle your emotions when your children disappoint you.  If you are a father and it hasn’t happened to you, just hold your horses, it will.

It is inherent in our base nature.  As far back as Adam, in the Garden of Eden, God the Father of all mankind was disappointed by the first sin.  Adam was given everything his heart desired, he didn’t need to farm, hunt, dress, or clean the garage.  All he had to do was stay away from the middle of the garden and not eat of the fruit of that tree, NO MATTER WHAT!  We all know how that worked out.

Fathers have been fighting the same rebellion since the first sin.  King David, in II Samuel, faced the disappointment of his rebellious son Absalom.  Absalom was the son of David’s union with Bathsheba, the wife of the Hittite Uriah.  Absalom was not happy with the decisions David made regarding discipline in his house.  As a result Absalom worked to bring about an overthrow of David’s empire.  Absalom almost succeeded except for his long hair, which caught up in the trees and pulled him out of his chariot.  There he hung until Joab came along and killed him against David’s orders.

David was deeply depressed at his son’s death.  He would not eat, drink, or even show his face.  He loved his son with a father’s heart.  No matter how great the rebellion, David loved his son.  That is a message for us today.  We need to love or children with the heart of a father.

God loves us with the heart of a Father.  He has set an example for us.  Over and over again, in the word of God, he tells us of the love of a father.  He shows us how, as a Father, He forgives us and is patient with us. 

We need to discipline early in any rebellion, but do it with a forgiving and loving heart, not with the heart of anger or frustration.  Psalms 13:24 tells us; “If you refuse to discipline your children, it proves you don’t love them; if you love your children, you will be prompt to discipline them”.   Given the need for discipline the word further says; “And now a word to you fathers. Don’t make your children angry by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction approved by the Lord” Ephesians 6:4. 

Treat your children with grace and mercy just as God treated you in your time of rebellion.

En servicio como padre

Dave

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