A Dad’s Authority

Fathers are the ultimate authority in their home.  King of his castle, Master of his house, not be questioned, his word is final.  Right? 

I have heard this kind of statement all my life.  I even believed it once upon a time.  I can remember when my oldest sons, David and Scott, were young, the common answer when they questioned one of my orders was, “Because I said so, that’s why”.  It was, without question the greatest statement of true authority,…. I thought.

Many fathers believe our word should not be questioned.  We have been divinely endowed with the greatest measure of authority known to man, as soon as our first born child took their first breath.  This is strongly reinforced as soon as there is a sibling in the house.  Now, you have the constant vying for the attention of the parents.  This requires even more authority to keep things in order.

Sounds like a vicious circle to me.  No winners, just losers in varying degrees.

What is wrong with our thinking?  Aren’t we meant to be the “head of our household”?

The answer to this question is an emphatic Yes!  We are reminded, in Colossians 3:20, that children should obey their parents.  We are told in Ephesians 5:23 that “the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body”. 

Man is made in God’s image, woman is to be subject to man, and children are to obey their parents.  Now if that isn’t a license to ultimate authority I don’t know what is.

There is one big flaw in this whole line of reasoning.  In Romans 13:1 it says “For there is no authority except from God [by His permission, His sanction}, and those that exist do so by God’s appointment”.  In other words, we don’t get authority by being able to father a child.  Any fool can father a child.  It takes a man of uncompromising values, tender scruples, righteous convictions, emotional balance, and spiritual discernment, to earn the right to claim the authority given by God.  Anything less is subject to errant and magnified misuse and abuse.

Seems impossible doesn’t it?  It’s one of the hardest things in the world to do.  That’s why there is only one perfect Father who has ever existed. 

We need to learn how to lead our families with a “servants heart”, if we are ever going to approach the true calling of being a father.  Pride and self-edification will only take us down the wrong road and make it much harder to find our way back to the true path of fatherhood. 

You can’t force acceptance of authority, you must model it for your children.  Then and only then, will your children honor the authority God gives, in certain measure, to all fathers.

En servicio como padre



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